Our brains and our hearts have a very interesting relationship, you are torn between two options- one risky, the other is safe. The risky option attracts you to buy instant online. Even if you know that you can spend or spend more than this, the availability of the item is time-consuming. The site is telling you how many items are omitted. You are certainly not sure whether it will fit in your closet, because only two are left, you feel that you need to hurry. Your heart is shouting a clear yes, telling you how much you would love it and how much you would love it. No more shouting, the more loud your head is, which gives instructions to pass you and save your money.
Even more critical than online shopping decisions, which we do in relationships, such as when you are ready for someone who may not be right for you but still appeals. You are browsing through dating-site profiles, or you are in a party, when you are ready for an attractive stranger immediately. Unlike purchasing a pair of pants or pants, this decision can affect not only your wallet but also your overall well-being. Who knows? It can also affect the rest of your life-if it becomes the right person for you. Your heart, again, is leaning towards your attention, so that you encourage it to go for it. However, there are more questions before allowing your head to fall into this possibly good, potentially destructive new relationship.
Friends and family will call you “listening to your heart”, because it knows “what is best for you.” Oprah Winfrey also suggests that you follow your emotional inclinations instead of those arguments. But is that really good advice? Consider those times when you followed your heart. How did it work? Perhaps after being cautioned at the spot, the opportunities were thrown away and let your emotions get the wheel, and all got well. But it is possible that at least several times when your decision has given opposite results.
Unfortunately, when we come to get a stock of our past experiences we are poor statisticians. Research on reminding shows that we remember special events in our lives, especially those who were happy. For most people, even painful memories are faded over time. As a result, we are almost programmed to go with our heart because we remember the time when he provided the right guidance.
The other side of this debate is the fact that there can be a very good track record in your rational decision-making processes. You can not remember when following the arguments, because they are memorable memories. It is also possible that when the cause became stronger, he told you not to do anything; So, you have less to remember. Think back on online shopping temptation: You remember the unknown shoes you once purchased, because you actually actually keep them (if you do not have the money burned). You do not remember what you do not have. The amount of debt that you spend for whatever loan you pass, just do not think, because it is not there.
What about “who had gone away”? Instead of always taking a “rational” wait-and-out approach, would you not regret not following your heart’s advice to go after that fascinating stranger?
Again, remember that we are poor statisticians: You remember the choice that you did not make, because the result does not know what the outcome will be, the best you can do, what can be done. What has not happened, which you can not clearly remember, were wrong results that could have followed the wrong decision.